me, today

ahhh this scene never gets less perfect


Nothing good gets away

From Letters of Note

“In November of 1958, John Steinbeck — the renowned author of, most notably, The Grapes of WrathEast of Eden, and Of Mice and Men — received a letter from his eldest son, Thom, who was attending boarding school. In it, the teenager spoke of Susan, a young girl with whom he believed he had fallen in love.

Steinbeck replied the same day. His beautiful letter of advice can be enjoyed below.

(Source: Steinbeck: A Life in Letters; Image: Thom and John Steinbeck with their father in 1954, courtesy of UC Berkeley.)

New York
November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First—if you are in love—that’s a good thing—that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second—There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you—of kindness and consideration and respect—not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply—of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it—and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone—there is no possible harm in saying so—only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another—but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens—The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.



repost: construction & catholic tradition

Me: I love that the construction site around the corner has to constantly use an air horn to signify things.
Me: Replace love with fucking hate to death.
Shawn Morrison: Sorry that’s actually me, I’ve been signaling high tide.
Me: I didn’t realize it was high tide every 21 minutes all day every day.
Shawn Morrison: I’m just guestimating.
Bill Griesau: Now tell me how you feel about the new pope being chosen.
Me: It would be awesome if the cardinals came out and they said, “Well, we chose a new pope. And it’s… this old Jewish guy who got lost in Vatican City two days ago while on a trip with his work friends.”
Me: And the whole world just gasps.
Me: And then the Jewish guy goes, “Oy vey!” and looks at the camera with a smile.

– from Maniacal Rage

new (rare) rilo kiley!

“Don’t get your hopes up just yet—this track isn’t the first sign of an impending Rilo Kiley reunion. The group’s guitarist, Blake Sennet, famously compared the band to a corpse in a 2011 interview, and that seems to be the final word on the band’s status. However, we are going to hear some new material from the band this year, in the form of a rarities compilation called RKives. Due out next month on Little Record Company, the album collects B-sides, demos, hard-to-find tracks, and seven previously unreleased tunes from the sadly defunct indie-pop icons.”


stump height

me: meagan
Meagan: baxter
me: do you believe oscar pistorious shot his gf accidentally or on purpose
i am like, enthralled by this story
Meagan: haha, i know! i read that the way the bullets hit the door, he had his legs on
whereas if he really thought there was a burgler, he wouldnt have put his legs on
me: hahaha sorry lol
Meagan: so therefore, he probably shot her on purpose
me: had his legs on
Meagan: someone said stumps
“he shot her from stump height”
 me: haha wait
  i thought he came home
  and thought an intruder was there
  of course he had his legs on
 Meagan: no he was “asleep”
  and heard a noise when he was in bed
 me: well maybe he sleeps with his legs on
  i mean, i do
 Meagan: nautrally
 me: you gonna judge me ?
 Meagan: but his defense said he didnt have his legs on
 me: lol
  i’m sorry
 Meagan: haha i know
 me: wait didn’t he walk through the house?
  like seek out the intruder?
 Meagan: no its like if the intruder was in my bathroom
 me: that means he would have put his legs on
 Meagan: the space from my bedroom to my bathroom isnt that long
  so they said he hobbled on his stumps over
 me:  i think it was an accident
 Meagan: lets ask charlize
 me: but i’m an optimist
 Meagan: the only other south african
 me: no longer
  oscar has ruined the country for me
  any soiuth african joke is game
 Meagan: rachel dratch had a hilarious tweet
 that all the people in the pistorius case had hunger games names
  and its so true
 Desmond Nair
  Hilton Botha
  Reva Steencamp
 Oscar Pistorius
  District 3
  it goes on and on
 me: god, good call rachel
  remember rachel dratch in Down With Love
 Meagan: hahahah
 me: i’m glad we got to this point in the conversation
  well done
  way to steer
 Meagan: lets be real that the best part is he was granted bail because
  “he’s not a flight risk”
 me: lol NO! is that it? NO!
Meagan: haha yes
me: did they take his legs?
 Meagan: like either the fastest paralympian ever
  or incapable of movement
  no inbetween
 me: hahahahahahahahaha
  did they take his legs, seriously?
 Meagan: HAHA did they take his legs
 me:  maybe just the fast legs
 Meagan: also like i know he has normal prosthetic legs, but i just keep imagining him hopping around on those running blades
 me: like, here you go – you can walk, but not too much
  good headline aljazeera
  me: hahahaha oh my god

3:31 PM me: okay wait, I’m ust reading this article re: oscar
she locked herself in the bathroom?
was he like beating her or something or was she pooping
Meagan: hahahahaha
Meagan: they were fighting
  the story goes
  and after she locked herself in the bathroom he shot her
  she went up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night and he didnt know what was going on and shot her
  which seems flimsy
  like you dont notice she isnt in bed
 me: that seems… odd
 Meagan: like jesus, if i get up in the middle of the night dont shoot me