Nothing good gets away

From Letters of Note

“In November of 1958, John Steinbeck — the renowned author of, most notably, The Grapes of WrathEast of Eden, and Of Mice and Men — received a letter from his eldest son, Thom, who was attending boarding school. In it, the teenager spoke of Susan, a young girl with whom he believed he had fallen in love.

Steinbeck replied the same day. His beautiful letter of advice can be enjoyed below.

(Source: Steinbeck: A Life in Letters; Image: Thom and John Steinbeck with their father in 1954, courtesy of UC Berkeley.)

New York
November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First—if you are in love—that’s a good thing—that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second—There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you—of kindness and consideration and respect—not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply—of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it—and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone—there is no possible harm in saying so—only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another—but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens—The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.

Love,

Fa

worth reposting: construction & catholic tradition

Me: I love that the construction site around the corner has to constantly use an air horn to signify things.
Me: Replace love with fucking hate to death.
Shawn Morrison: Sorry that’s actually me, I’ve been signaling high tide.
Me: I didn’t realize it was high tide every 21 minutes all day every day.
Shawn Morrison: I’m just guestimating.
Bill Griesau: Now tell me how you feel about the new pope being chosen.
Me: It would be awesome if the cardinals came out and they said, “Well, we chose a new pope. And it’s… this old Jewish guy who got lost in Vatican City two days ago while on a trip with his work friends.”
Me: And the whole world just gasps.
Me: And then the Jewish guy goes, “Oy vey!” and looks at the camera with a smile.
Me: CREDITS, 80s ROCK SONG

- from Maniacal Rage

new (rare) rilo kiley!

“Don’t get your hopes up just yet—this track isn’t the first sign of an impending Rilo Kiley reunion. The group’s guitarist, Blake Sennet, famously compared the band to a corpse in a 2011 interview, and that seems to be the final word on the band’s status. However, we are going to hear some new material from the band this year, in the form of a rarities compilation called RKives. Due out next month on Little Record Company, the album collects B-sides, demos, hard-to-find tracks, and seven previously unreleased tunes from the sadly defunct indie-pop icons.”

Yay!